We all expect others to be pleasant to us. We all expect others to be reasonable to us. We all expect others to be fair to us. These are universal traits. These are traits beyond age or any other consideration.
Unfortunately, the converse of this paradigm is not true – at least in operational terms. We do not find it necessary to be pleasant to everyone, and we have a reason to behave the way we actually behave. The same applies to reasonableness and fairness. When it comes to our own behaviour, we tend to do what we consider fit for the occasion without always evaluating it on a tripartite framework.
This hiatus is the root of much conflict and disappointment in expectations not being fulfilled. Unfortunately, there is no formal training orientation, let alone education on how to be pleasant, how to be reasonable, and how to be fair. This gap in orientation and educational systems needs to be addressed because everything in life has to be learned. One learns by example, one learns by observation, and one learns by conditioning. These traits are not there...
